Generally, I don't pay attention to the people around me (meaning other customers in stores, etc), but in light of all my Southern friends' assertations that Southerners really are more polite (or, as spautz puts it, have a lower rudeness threshhold). So for the next week or so (as long as it takes me to get bored with this), I will be paying attention to how other peoople interact.
Today's first test was
Collegetown Bagel, since I slept too late to make oatmeal for breakfast. Collegetown Bagel is a combined coffee shop/deli/bagel shop whose setup is not particularly conducive to being polite. You follow a queue up to a counter, where you order the sandwiches/bagels you want and receive a slip of paper to take farther up the queue to the cashier. It's generally loud, and there are several employees making sandwiches and taking orders at the same time. So you just stand there until someone looks up or, ideally, asks you what you want. They're working really hard and trying to keep up with roughly five sandwiches each, plus new customers, so it's hard to say they're impolite.
I was able to hear two people both in front of and behind me for a total of four. The shop is just outside Cornell's campus, so there's no real telling where the customers are from, though it seems the vast majority of Cornell students are originally from the North. Here are the results from ordering the bagels:
- Two people said "Can I get a ..."
- One said "I'll have a ..., please"
- One said "I'd like a ..."
- All four said either "Thanks" or "Thank you" upon receiving their order slip
I'll let you draw your own conclusions about this. For my part, I think the customers were less polite than they would have been in the South but that they certainly weren't rude.
Next I reached the cashier. You don't have to ask the cashier for anything, except perhaps a coffee. But I was the only one in my area who wanted a coffee, and I am excluding myself from this experiment. Once again, everyone around me said "Thanks" or "Thank you" when his order was completed. Later, when receiving my sandwich (you wait around to hear "sesame with cream cheese!"), I noticed that about half the people said thank you, and that when they had to reach over someone waiting in line, almost all said excuse me.
So that's all I know for now. Time to learn some solid mechanics.
May 4, 2005Today I noticed that all the kids thanked our bus driver when we got off the shuttle from my apartment to campus this morning.
I spoke with the Yankees who sit around me about politeness in the South. One of them is from New York, and the other is from New Jersey. They're both really nice and have even invited me to parties. So anyhow, they said they don't feel welcome in the South. They feel intimidated by a high prevalence of bumper stickers that either have the Confederate flag or say things like "Yankees, go home!" They think Carolinians have too much pride. They also talked at length about a friend of theirs who went to Texas for grad school and has been having terrible service everywhere and who hasn't been able to make friends. Weird...
May 9, 2005This is from a thread on the Runner's World Forums about the best greetings received while out on a run:
I used to just say "mornin'" if it was morning. But, though that is appropriate for someone from the northeast, the southerners didn't seem to like it. After people remarking that yes, it was morning, I've added a "good" to it!